We've all heard the saying, “Time heals all wounds.” While it may sound comforting, this common grief myth can unintentionally dismiss the reality of what healing truly requires. The truth is, time alone isn’t enough to resolve grief—it’s what we actively choose to do with our time that makes the difference.
Let’s explore this idea through a simple analogy: the flat tire.
Imagine this: You’re driving on the highway, and suddenly, you hear the dreaded thump of a flat tire. You pull over to the side of the road and assess the situation. Now, what’s your next step?
You have several options:
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Fix the Tire Yourself: If you’re equipped with the tools and skills, you can address the issue on your own.
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Call for Professional Help: No tools or know-how? You can reach out to a roadside service for assistance.
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Sit and Cry: It’s normal to feel overwhelmed. You might take a moment to process your frustration before making a decision.
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Drive on the Broken Wheel: You could choose to keep driving despite the damage, but this risks making things worse.
What happens with time? Time keeps moving forward, but unless you take action, the flat tire remains. It won’t fix itself, and ignoring it can lead to further complications.
How This Relates to Grief
Grief events are much like that flat tire. While time continues to pass, it’s the choices you make and the steps you take during that time that determine how you move forward. Simply waiting isn’t enough.
Healing requires action. That might mean reaching out to a grief recovery coach, leaning on trusted friends, or using tools to process and release your emotions. Whatever path feels right for you, engaging in your own recovery is key to finding peace and resilience.
Taking Ownership of Your Healing
You don’t have to face grief alone, and you don’t have to feel stuck, hoping time will make things better. Every small step you take toward healing is a meaningful part of the process.
Ready to take the first step? Download our Comprehensive Grief Assessment, download our FREE Grief Recovery 101 Guide or dive into our Grief 201 Guide + Audiobook to learn practical tools for processing tangible losses and nurturing your emotional resilience.
Healing doesn’t happen by chance—it happens through choice, courage, and care. So, what will you do with the time you have?