It’s Okay to Not Be Okay: Why I’m Starting This Blog

Have you ever had an existential crisis at a surprise birthday dinner party for a friend? I have. 

Let me set the scene.

My loving and gracious husband leaned over and asked me a simple question: “Do you know what you want?”—in reference to the menu, of course. But instead of a simple answer, my inner dialogue decided to take center stage:

“Yes? No? What if I don’t want this? What if I wanted it only because other people told me I wanted it? Maybe Danielle wants something else… What does Danielle want?! I don’t know.”

😂 Haha, let me backup a bit.

A week before that dinner, I resigned from my stable, seven-year job and decided to go all in on my grief and resilience coaching business. Yep, it was a leap of faith, one that I knew in my heart was necessary. But big life changes don’t come without growing pains.

So, there I was, at the restaurant, surrounded by eight loving friends, and suddenly crying at the table. Tears. In a packed restaurant. With friends murmuring, “It’s okay,” while I’m sitting there thinking to myself, “It’s not okay… but I’ll be okay.”

Life’s funny like that, right? 😂

Why Start Blogging Now?

That dinner party marked a turning point for me. It was a moment of clarity (or maybe chaos) that opened my eyes to some of the limiting beliefs I’d been carrying around—ones I hadn’t even realized were there:

• I’m not doing enough for my business. (It was literally day 5 of my new entrepreneurial journey.)
• Is this what I really want, or is it what I think others expect me to want?
• What if I don’t know what I want?

When doubt creeps in, what do I do? I usually cry a little, and then I remind myself of the truth and reframe my limiting beliefs.

And from that one moment, I had a springboard idea. 💡 What if there were other areas in my life—and in others’—where this applies?

So, I did a thing:

• I put a note in my phone about it to think about later.
• I ordered the chicken parmigiana, which was amazing.
• I laughed and connected with my friends, knowing I could circle back to these thoughts and deal with them when I’m ready.

Introducing: ReFrame

This moment led to the creation of an entire resource collection called ReFrame. It’s designed to help you uncover and reframe the limiting beliefs holding you back so you can move forward with clarity and confidence.

If this resonates with you, check out my free resource: Limiting Beliefs 101. Or you can dive deep into the paid 201 version. You can also browse through my Reframe Quick Guides where I break down the top 10 limiting beliefs in a variety of areas we all face. I'm working on releasing over 200 this year, so check back often! Start reframing the lies and step into the truth.

What You Can Expect From This Blog

I want this space to be a place where we can:

• Talk openly about the complexities of life and emotions.
• Share tools and strategies for building resilience.
• Normalize the ups and downs that come with personal growth and healing.
• Find moments of humor, hope, and connection.

Most importantly, I want this blog to feel like a safe, supportive corner of the internet where we can navigate life’s challenges together. 💛

The Takeaway? It’s Okay to Not Be Okay (It's what you do next that matters)

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that sometimes the most meaningful growth comes from moments of uncertainty. It’s okay to not have it all figured out. It’s okay to cry at dinner with friends. And it’s okay to admit when you’re struggling. Because those moments? They’re where the choice of resilience begins.

So, here’s to embracing the journey—tears, existential crises, and all. Welcome to the blog! Let’s grow together. 🌱✨