Grief isn’t just about losing a loved one—it’s about any change or ending. Any shift in your life that disrupts what you once knew can bring grief along with it. Whether it’s moving to a new city, the end of a relationship, or even losing a sense of identity, grief shows up in many forms. And all of them are valid.
Defining Grief
At its core, grief is:
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"The conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior."
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"The normal and natural reaction to loss or change of any kind."
That means grief isn’t just sadness—it’s a mix of emotions. Relief, anger, confusion, guilt (the intent to harm), even numbness—all of these can be part of grief. And it doesn’t always show up the way you expect.
How Grief Feels
Grief can be conflicting, especially when relationships (with people, places, or even dreams) are a mix of good and painful moments. Sometimes grief is about missing something you had. Other times, it’s about mourning something you never did.
The Feeling of….
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"Reaching out for someone or something who’s always been there, only to discover when you need them one more time, they are no longer there."
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"Reaching out for someone or something who’s never been there for you, only to realize when you need them one more time, they are still no longer there for you."
Both of these experiences carry grief. And both deserve space to be acknowledged.
Your Healing Journey Starts Here
You don’t have to carry this alone. Grief is normal, but avoiding it and pushing it away for a "later time" can keep you stuck. The good news? There’s a way through.
Resources to Help You Heal
I’ve created several resources to support you on this journey, no matter where you are in the process:
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Grief Recovery 101 Guide – A free resource to help you understand what grief really is and how to start processing it.
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Grief Recovery 201 Guide + Audio Version – A deeper look into healing strategies for those ready to move beyond the basics.
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Comprehensive Grief Assessment – A guided tool to help you uncover where grief is impacting your life the most.
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Grief Recovery 6-Week Course – If you're ready to do the work, join me for a structured program where we’ll work together to process and heal your grief.
No matter where you begin, taking the first step matters. Grief recovery works, but you have to do the work for it to work. So, let’s get to work.